3 Reasons Why You Should Speak Less
Arizona State University concluded that on average, men and women speak about 16,000 words a day. How many words do you speak per day? If you speak more than an average person, then here you will find out why you should not.
Excession leads to destruction. Nothing too much is healthy. I am pretty sure you knew that. Just like too much junk food can affect your physical health, too much speaking can hurt your mental well-being.
I will be talking about how your words can affect you, not others. Here are three reasons why speaking too much can make you suffer.
1. Speaking Too Much Leads to Anxiety
“ Social interaction is where the action is, we are only alive when we socially interact with someone, the rest of our lives concern getting ready for interactions or reviewing the consequences of the last interactions. ” ‐ Robert Hogan
We humans naturally have this habit of rewinding the conversations we have with people. The more things you say the more things there are to think about and worry about which in the end makes you anxious.
I can not fall asleep until I replay conversations in my head at the end of each day. I sit down and ponder what I have or should have said. The days that I have too many interactions are the days I have a lot to think about. There are always more things I regret saying. There are things I think I should have not said or should have said better. It drains energy and can make you anxious.
2. People Who Talk Too Much Actually Has Less To Say
You either talk or think. You can not do both at the same time. Talking is not about the number of words you say, it is about how much of your words and sentences are relevant. The one who talks too much has less time to think, so as a result, the things they say are not relevant most of the time.
3. No One Listens To People Who Talk Too Much
There is a saying in my language Pashto that says, A stone is modest when it remains in its own place. There is a reason why some people find introverts attractive. They usually keep things to themselves.
The more you talk and assert yourself the fewer people will listen to you. People do not carefully pay attention to what kids say, because they know kids naturally talk a lot and usually say things that make little sense. It is normal not to care what they say.
Silence Is The Treatment
The good news is you already have the remedy in you. Remaining silent is an act of worship. Worshiping has this silent element to it across cultures, religions, and spiritual practices. Speak good or remain silent. Sometimes it is better to keep some words to yourself — for your own good. There is some level of harm in what you say but never in remaining silent.